Write to Allow

Everything. Even when you're used to pushing it away.

Hello Dear One,

Are there certain emotions you’re used to pushing away? That you don’t allow? Anger?Sadness? Frustration? Do you judge yourself, or have a story about how you ‘should’ feel instead? Or, tell yourself something isn’t ‘allowed’ to be a big deal?

About a month ago I got my hair cut. I’d grown my hair all year, it was the longest it had ever been (in good condition) and I was proud of it. I asked to keep as much length as possible, the hairdresser suggested taking an inch off, then swiftly cut off over three.

Is there a part of you thinking: yeah, but it’s only hair? Or It’ll grow back? Or that old classic some people don’t even have running water? I’d never say that to anyone else, but I would to me. Because the pattern of shaming myself runs deep.

It judges and qualifies, tells me to feel differently and be grateful for what I have. Which is incredibly unhelpful.

After my hair, I felt pissed off (mostly about my hair) and deeply sad (mostly about other things). The sadness has continued over the last couple of weeks. I’ve tried to push it away. I’ve tried to reason it away. Neither work.

What works is feeling my feelings. Allowing them, on the page and in life. Crying. Letting myself be. Not covering it up. Asserting (even when there’s contraction and resistance) that it’s beautiful to feel what I feel. That applies to you too.

I allow all of my INSERT EMOTION HERE because I’m a human being.

Thanks for being here and being you.

All love,

Jo

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Write to Reflect on 2022 + Your Dream 2023

I’m running two very special workshops - one to close 2022 and a second to start the new year.

If you’d love space to process it all, celebrate your wins and feel uplifted and inspired come join. All of you is so welcome.

Visit my website for the details, where you’ll find a special bundle too ✨

AND FINALLY

I was reminded of this song, and whole album recently. It’s a good one to feel your feelings to.