I find it difficult to distinguish between being unkind to myself and working hard. Sometimes it’s hard to know when to stop and how much pressure is too much.
My take would be if it feels unkind, or like too much pressure, it is. I say things to myself like ‘it’s ok to stop’ or ‘this feels really difficult - what do I need?’
In a society which values productivity so highly the pressure TO work hard can often be unfair. We get to enjoy our lives!
I never had an idea of being kind to myself. 'Kind', i thought is something to give and receive. I din know this concept existed until recent times. Now that Im practicing its not easy and that's true. Jus like I try to bite the honey in hurry!!
Thanks fro my selfreflection episode. it felt nice!
The beating myself up part started in childhood, the moment after I was the first contestant eliminated in the third grade spelling bee. Everyone tried to say that I did a good job, but I wasn't hearing any of it. And I've carried that mentality for most of my life. I also find it hard to be kind to myself, as growing up with cerebral palsy distorted my sense of self being reminded of all the problems. I don't know how to show myself compassion.
I find it difficult to distinguish between being unkind to myself and working hard. Sometimes it’s hard to know when to stop and how much pressure is too much.
I hear this!
My take would be if it feels unkind, or like too much pressure, it is. I say things to myself like ‘it’s ok to stop’ or ‘this feels really difficult - what do I need?’
In a society which values productivity so highly the pressure TO work hard can often be unfair. We get to enjoy our lives!
I never had an idea of being kind to myself. 'Kind', i thought is something to give and receive. I din know this concept existed until recent times. Now that Im practicing its not easy and that's true. Jus like I try to bite the honey in hurry!!
Thanks fro my selfreflection episode. it felt nice!
Have a good day :)
I loved your episode! Self-compassion is definitely counterintuitive when well trained to be self-critical. Love that you are on the journey 💕
The beating myself up part started in childhood, the moment after I was the first contestant eliminated in the third grade spelling bee. Everyone tried to say that I did a good job, but I wasn't hearing any of it. And I've carried that mentality for most of my life. I also find it hard to be kind to myself, as growing up with cerebral palsy distorted my sense of self being reminded of all the problems. I don't know how to show myself compassion.